The Art of Subtle Suggestion: How to Have Challenging, Difficult, and Uncomfortable Conversations at Work and… Everywhere Else, Too
by Steven Nathenson
Master the conversations most people avoid.
Difficult conversations are part of work, leadership, relationships, coaching, management, sales, parenting, and everyday life. The challenge is knowing how to say what needs to be said without creating defensiveness, confusion, resistance, or regret.
In The Art of Subtle Suggestion, Steven Nathenson, former FBI Special Agent, leadership and executive coach, speaker, and founder of Strive For More, shares a practical communication framework for having challenging, difficult, and uncomfortable conversations with more confidence, clarity, and care.
This is not a book about manipulation. It is a book about communicating with intention.
Drawing from his experience in the FBI, engineering, executive coaching, organizational development, and work with hundreds of individuals across 172+ companies and twenty countries, Nathenson teaches readers how to shape messages that are clear, constructive, human, and more likely to be received the way they are intended.
Inside, readers will learn how to:
- Communicate in a way that lowers defensiveness and increases understanding
- Choose words and phrases that make difficult conversations more productive
- Recognize the hidden factors that shape how messages are sent, received, and interpreted
- Use timing, tone, assertiveness, listening, coaching, and storytelling more effectively
- Build confidence before walking into conversations they would normally avoid
- Create communication that is effective, engaging, and collaborative
- Use a practical blueprint for conversations at work and everywhere else, too
Whether you are a leader, manager, coach, advisor, HR professional, entrepreneur, parent, spouse, teammate, or someone who wants to communicate with greater confidence, this book gives you a clear path for saying hard things in a better way.
Words can damage trust, or they can build it.
The difference is often subtle.
The Art of Subtle Suggestion shows you how to make those subtleties count.
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Steven Nathenson
Author
Steven helps people communicate subtly suggestively and master their mindsets to increase their focus, confidence, and performance. He began his career as an engineer in the energy sector and went on to become a special agent with the FBI. After a successful career with the FBI, Steven took his passion for helping others into the world of coaching. Since that time, he has worked with hundreds of individuals in 172+ companies and 20 countries (as of the publishing date) within, including but not limited to, the business services, education, energy, finance, government, manufacturing, media, retail, science and technology, and telecommunication sectors.
Steven holds two master’s degrees in mechanical engineering and organizational development and leadership. He’s received two United States patents for his work as an engineer and five awards for his investigative work as a special agent. He’s also an avid triathlete and Ironman. However, his greatest achievements lie in the success he helps others achieve.
Life has taught him that people are at the heart of everything, and by taking a human approach, we can make our goals and desires a reality. This lesson forms the very core of his trademarked evidence-based coaching philosophy of G.R.I.T. – Give, Recognize, Implement, Time®, which centers around developing individuals and organizations through mental mastery and core components of human nature.
